The Comfort Company Blog / Comforting a loved one
Have you ever thought about how horrible it would be to lose an aging parent or a long-time pet and felt your breath catch in your throat? Or maybe you look at your young, healthy spouse and become deeply sad thinking about losing them one day.
Sometimes it can feel like we're grieving for loved ones before we've actually lost them, whether it's a loss that we know is coming (as in the case of terminal illness and you're working through the five stages of grief) or it's just one that we fear.
When someone we love loses someone they love, it's natural to want to do something to offer support. It can be difficult to determine what's the most helpful and appropriate way to offer sympathy to the bereaved.
As a result, many find themselves asking "Should I send a sympathy gift?"
Losing a child is most parents' biggest fear. There's nothing that can prepare you for it, and it's undeniably one of the hardest things that a parent could face.
And if you're reading this, it likely means that you or someone close to you has lost a child in their lives. We're so sorry.
While nothing can magically solve or end the grieving process, there are things that you can do to help comfort parents who have lost a child.
Many people who are blessed enough to not have experienced grief personally often have absolutely no idea of what to say to someone who has recently gone through a loss.
Unfortunately, it's not uncommon that in an attempt to say something comforting, we often fall back on cliches that we've heard before. In some cases, however, these cliches can actually hurt more than they help.
When someone you care about loses someone they love, it can be shocking and devastating. Your first instinct would likely be to reach out and hug them or hold their hand, to offer to make them dinner or watch the kids.
These are all great. But what happens when you're not close enough to do any of those things?
When your friend loses someone they love, we don't always know the right things to say or do. We can feel at a loss, and it can be isolating on both sides when you aren't sure how to try to help someone because sometimes we instinctively withdraw instead.
If you're feeling confused or unsure about how you can help your friend after they've lost someone they love, the good news is that there are some major things you can offer to do that can offer them comfort and practical support.